Never Be Ashamed for Needing a Moment to Yourself

*five months later* whoops.

That’s really the only statement that I can come up with regarding my blog taking a little hiatus. I’ve thought about opening my laptop over the past few months, but never seemed motivated or inspired to write. I really don’t even know where the time went. I guess I’ve been waiting for something to spark my rediscovery in writing. Apparently, this weekend was it.

This weekend I decided to take a step back from personal and professional responsibilities and just do my own thing. Mind you, it’s been a gloomy two days, so that “own thing” has been Netflix, reading, cleaning and working out.

And let me tell you – I feel fabulous.

For those who don’t know, May is Mental Health Month – and to be honest, I’m surprised that alone wasn’t reason enough for me to break out the blog on May 1. Just because I didn’t write about it, though, doesn’t mean it hasn’t been on my mind.

I technically spent this weekend doing nothing, which may be considered “lazy” to some. But to me, it was a chance to refresh my body and mind — free of a single responsibility, aside from cleaning and laundry because #adulting.

In a life where we cannot let our responsibilities fall to the wayside (#adulting again), I feel like it’s extra important to take advantage of these quiet days when we can. Supporting your mental health does not necessarily mean you have a mental illness, or that you have anything to be ashamed of if you do have a mental illness. Sometimes you just need to check yourself and your priorities to be sure that you aren’t on a path toward burnout, and that you’re able to experience life fully. This is not to say your life should be without stress, fears, or busy schedules; however, you should be able to experience life in a way that is not hindered by negative thoughts or activities that are not your priorities.

My mental health is a priority. My physical health is a priority. Do I always take care of these? No, not necessarily. Wine, cheese and sleepless nights do sometimes occur.

This is why I’m so lucky to have family and friends in my life who understand when I say I just need to take a day or two with no plans. They know that means I need to recharge, even if I didn’t technically have an “exhausting” week. For example, I may not have been overwhelmed with life this past week, but this weekend was more of a proactive mental health weekend.

I am self-aware now to know that when I travel often and make lots of plans, I tend to become overwhelmed. I know this is not the case for everyone. Some people thrive off of being constantly social or always on the go, and that is wonderful; however, I have busied myself up enough in the past to know that I need to take breaks.

Not breaks from life, though.

This is something I’ve really had to alter my perspective on and find a balance with over the past couple years. I used to just “need a break from life,” when in reality that’s not true. I feel like this was and still is such a negative way to look at mental health or personal days. As if there’s a negative connotation, but there’s not. When I have these days now — I’m aware that I have plenty of responsibilities and people around me. I’m not trying to ignore those; rather, I’m just making sure I’m refreshed enough to truly make the most of when I return to those responsibilities (in this case, Monday).

It’s not taking a break from life – it’s taking a moment to yourself to breathe so that you can continue to appreciate life moving forward.

– Rachel

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