A Year of Grieving – of Healing – of Living.

2017 was a year of grieving. I spent last New Year’s Eve unable to leave my bed, hurting over the loss of our dad. That night my mom was my NYE kiss, and luckily tonight, she will be right by my side again as I ring in 2018 with family. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

2017 was a year of healing–a year of transferring any ounce of self-loathing into self-loving. It was a time to ask for help after years of holding back, and getting that help when I needed it most. I learned who makes up my support system. I learned how special the people in my life are, and how lucky I am to have them beside me in the years to come.

2017 was a year of life’s biggest moments. I graduated college, became employed, and moved out. I will soon move into New York City–a city I’ve dreamed of since I was just a kid visiting the Big Apple. How long will this be my home? Now, that’s just something we’ll have to re-evaluate when I look back at 2018.

2017 was a year of family–of bonding together in a time when we all needed this support the most. It was a year of continuing to fight the adversities that life throws our way. It was a year of adding a new brother, husband and son into our little family. It was a year to celebrate, to dance and laugh, and enjoy the best part of this crazy life: love.

2017 was a year of living. These twelve months reminded me what matters most in life, and from this, reminded me of what does not matter–to take a step back when I am feeling everyday stresses and pressures, and to recognize that what I’m worried about may not be worth the stress at all.

2018 will be a year to remember. I know it. I don’t know what it will bring, but I know as long as I’m surrounded by the same people that kept me going through 2017, then this new year is going to be perfect.

Cheers to the year ahead.

-Rachel

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Why I’m Going to Keep Watching the Fairytales.

Life is hard. Simple as that. It’s stressful, tragic, busy, sad, emotional. The list could go on.

Now, fairytale romances? Those are fun. They are magical, romantic, stress-free and happy. Sure many people now critique old school Disney fairytales for forgetting about female empowerment, but have you ever walked out of a fairytale with a frown on your face? No. That’s because you like the magic. You crave the romance. You long for the happily ever after that you just watched on-screen.

This is the same for any romantic comedy or romantic novel.

I’m not saying I look to romantic comedies as life motivators. Matthew McConaughey’s abs are not necessarily the cornerstone of female empowerment. John Cusack’s lines are not going to inspire my future career as a communications powerhouse.

Note that I wrote powerhouse, not just a female powerhouse in my industry.

No, these rom coms are not going to define how I live my life, but they are going to bring me two hours of happy tears and smiles before I get back to reality. And maybe remind me that love and happiness also should have a prominent place in life beside your career.

Happily ever after’s exist in the “real world.” I truly believe that. They don’t come without bumps along the way and continuous struggles, and these happy endings do not look the same from person to person. But I know they exist.

I may not have my own happily ever after yet, but I’m twenty years old. If I reached my happily ever after now, then what life stories would I have when I’m a crazy old woman? I have a mountain of a life to climb before I reach that “fade to black with the happy music and closing credits.”

Reality is hard enough without analyzing and overanalyzing the blissful movies that are life’s greatest escape. So I say enjoy the hopeless romance. Embrace your own happiness when the two characters fall in love. And believe that when those movie or novel characters live happily ever after—that you too will have one of your own some day.

Even if you have to go through hell and back to get there.

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P.S. While en route to happily ever after, might I suggest you some of my favorite escapes to enjoy along the way? Perfect.

Rachel’s Go-To Romantic Comedies:

  1. Serendipity
  2. Sweet Home Alabama (Christine’s Favorite)
  3. 13 Going on 30
  4. Crazy, Stupid, Love
  5. How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days (plus any and all Matthew McConaughey Rom Coms)
  6. The Longest Ride (one of the least depressing Nicholas Sparks movies)
  7. When Harry Met Sally
  8. Pretty Woman
  9. The Holiday
  10. A Cinderella Story
  11. The Proposal
  12. The Princess Diaries (and 2)
  13. P.S. I Love You
  14. Enchanted
  15. The Parent Trap
  16. Ella Enchanted (Mom’s Favorite)
  17. What a Girl Wants (Mom’s Other Favorite)
  18. Chalet Girl (It’s on Netflix. Go find it.)
  19. Every Hallmark Movie. Every single one. Go watch them.
  20. Finding Nemo—not a Rom Com nor a Fairy Tale, just the happiest movie you’ll ever watch (after the first five minutes for obvious reasons you’ll see…)

This is not even close to being a complete list. The list is endless and I suggest you all go find your favorite rom coms to escape to.

-Rachel